Slight TW for mention of self-image issues.
If you tell yourself something often enough, you start to believe it. I know this from experience; when I was little, I managed to almost convince myself I was a dragon.
This is kind of what happens when you keep bashing on yourself. Over time, you start to believe you deserve it, and it becomes easy. The more you do it, the more you believe it. It becomes almost true to you.
It works the other way, too, though. If you tell yourself enough that you’re amazing, you’re beautiful, you’re perfect the way you are, you get to believing it. And the longer you do it, the easier it is to believe it.
I’m not saying it’s just that simple. There are days when you just can’t think of anything good about yourself, and days when you still don’t believe you’re amazing.
But try this. Every day, tell yourself “I am smart, I look good, I am worth it, people love me.” And whenever you remember to, think of some things you like about yourself. Write them down for when you can’t remember. Teach yourself to love yourself.
It’s not a steady up-and-up path by far. You will have bad days, no question about it. But I promise it gets better. It always gets better.
You are not alone.
Love, Draconic Ally