Your feelings are valid.
I personally have seen that people often tend to feel like they have to explain why they feel a certain way, especially if it’s a negative feeling like sadness. If they can’t explain why they feel sad, they’re made to feel like they shouldn’t feel that way. Heck, even if you do have a reason, you’re made to feel guilty about it because other people have it worse. And to me, that makes no sense.
A common counter-argument is “that’s like saying I can’t be happy because someone else has it better”, and I have to agree. If people’s feelings were judged relatively to others’, only the person who has the best life and the person who has the worst would be allowed to feel happy or sad, respectively.
Your feelings matter. You are allowed to feel happy or sad or angry or whatever. Suppressing them because you feel like you shouldn’t feel that way, or you’ve been told you shouldn’t feel that way, is unhealthy. It’s hard at first for a reason.
Your feelings do matter. You matter.
Love, Draconic Ally.